Sex after pregnancy: Answers to the most frequently asked questions
How soon after the birth of the child can I have intimate relations?
Whether you gave birth vaginally or by C-section, your body will need time to heal. Gynecologists recommend waiting four to six weeks before having intimate intercourse again, but it is normal if it takes several months. During this time, the cervix will close, postpartum bleeding will stop, and possible cracks in the intimate area will heal.
Will it hurt?
Hormonal changes can cause vaginal dryness, especially if you are breastfeeding. To avoid any discomfort during sex, start easy, with hugging, kissing or massaging. Gradually increase the intensity of stimulation. If dryness bothers you, use a lubricant in the form of a cream or gel. Try different positions so that you don't feel pressure on the painful areas and to control the penetration. Tell your partner what works for you and what doesn't.
Will the feeling be different?
After vaginal delivery, the tone of the muscles of the vagina can weaken and thus reduce the comfortable feeling of friction during sex. Kegel exercises that strengthen the pelvic floor can help here. Simply squeeze your pelvic floor muscles as if trying to hold back urination. Hold for 5 seconds, then repeat 4 to 5 times. Over time, extend the contractions to 10 seconds, then keep the muscles relaxed for 10 seconds between contractions. When you get used to it, do at least 3 sets of 10 Kegel exercises a day.
What about contraception?
Unless you want to get pregnant again as soon as possible, sex after pregnancy requires reliable contraception, even if you are breastfeeding. The simplest means will be condoms and spermicides, and immediately after pregnancy you can also use pills that contain only progesterone. Pills containing both progesterone and estrogen are recommended for 6 weeks after delivery, as otherwise they may cause blood clots.
What if I'm too tired for sex?
If you are too tired for sex at night, then tell your partner. But that doesn't mean your sex life has to stop. Try to make love early in the morning while the baby is sleeping or if another family member or friend is watching.