What is the love affair between an optimist and a pessimist?
You are a born optimist and for you the glass is always at least half full. Your partner is a pessimist, but despite your differences, you fell in love with him.
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What to do?
Fearless - the connection between an optimist and a pessimist is possible, as long as both parties are willing to be flexible, writes Your Tango.
If you are an optimist who comes out with a pessimist
As an optimist, you enjoy observing things in a positive light. As long as you deal with the problems, you do not allow yourself to be sad.
For example, if your partner's car won't start and you've agreed to go to dinner, in 5 minutes you'll show up in front of his building with car cables in one hand and a basket of food in the other.
Your partner's smile meant the world to you, but you can't fight his pessimistic view of the world anymore. What should you do?
First, think about why he behaves that way. Is he struggling with depression or has a health problem? Are there any childhood traumas? Is he overly empathetic or does he care about every little thing?
When you understand why he behaves like that, you will understand him and try to help him. Your partner will respect what you have tried to touch his intimacy, and you will feel better.
If you are a pessimist who comes out with an optimist
You have your own view of the world, even if it's a bit gloomy. If you hear that your partner's car broke down, you'll probably think that he's not coming because he found someone better than you. This is the worst-case scenario that can come to mind.
Everything changes when you meet a real optimist. His positive worldview is too much for you. After all, you are not the villain in the story, you are a realist, are you?
Try to understand why your partner has a positive attitude in life. Does he want to help other people? Does he ignore worldly problems and overshadow them with eternal optimism? Is his optimism just a mask?
If your partner is like this, try to enjoy his glow and positive energy. However, if you think that positive energy is trying to mask the problems, talk to him.
